Scariest Monster in the Galaxy: Impostor Syndrome

Yesterday, thanks to a friend’s advice, I realized that I have not talked about a very important topic here. The woman programmer’s worst enemy. Impostor syndrome.

If you have never heard of impostor syndrome, then you truly are lucky. It is a dark monster that gets inside your head one day and makes you feel like it will never get away. Spooky, and very Halloween-themed. But seriously, what is impostor syndrome? Have you ever felt in your life that everything you have done… you did not really do, you simply got lucky? That awesome job? That promotion? A’s in all of your classes? A stellar degree? Yep, all that was pure luck. How come no one else noticed what happened to you? A very simple explanation as well: you fooled them, you fooled them all! And the worst part yet? Any time now they will discover what an impostor you truly are, and you shall lose all that you worked so hard for were so lucky to get.

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Sounds familiar? I am about to tell you how to slay this beast. Continue reading “Scariest Monster in the Galaxy: Impostor Syndrome”

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Scariest Monster in the Galaxy: Impostor Syndrome

Experiences and Click Moments

The most useful life skills that I learned during college times were not taught to me in a classroom setting. On the contrary, I learned them from awesome experiences I had after going to classes. Continue reading “Experiences and Click Moments”

Experiences and Click Moments

How do I negotiate an offer?

I have talked to a lot of women who told me they did not negotiate their salary, and are now making less than the men at their organization for offering the same skills and knowledge. Suffice to say that situation is horribly unfair and wrong. So my advice to you is please, please, please negotiate your salary. For you, for women who come after you. It must be done.

Why?

Why would you want to negotiate your salary? Let’s see..

1. You get to travel more to that one place you have always wanted to see;

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2. a nicer machine;

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3. nicer house;

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4. can go out more often;

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5. and finally, it feels good to be treated equally with your co-workers. Because we are all in this together.

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How? Continue reading “How do I negotiate an offer?”

How do I negotiate an offer?

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

One thing I noticed a lot as a post-graduate adult is fear. Fear of not being enough, of being an impostor, of making the wrong decisions. I am constantly and utterly afraid. I know I am not alone in this, you are not alone in this. I have talked to many people in the industry who are in the same position, and they are constantly afraid too. Heck, I was terrified about starting this blog at the fear that people will be judging what I write. I realize that they do judge me, yet I keep on writing, putting the fear past me.

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I went to a wonderful talk last night by Julia Gillard, the first woman Prime Minister of Australia, and got truly inspired. Having internalized some of the advice Prime Minister Gillard has shared based on what I have been dealing with for the last n years, I would like to share them with you. Continue reading “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?